An Open Letter to a Younger Me

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours- it is an amazing journey- and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”

Bob Moawad

One of the greatest questions I’ve ever been asked is, “if you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?”

After a great deal of self-reflection and psychoanalysis, I’ve finally settled on a few. If I could sit down with a younger me, I’d probably advise her as follows.

Your future needs you, your past does not.

So chase life. Write it down. Be loud about the things that are important to you and make noise unapologetically.

You have one job and that is to be unapologetically you.

You’ll stop caring so much about what other people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.

When it comes to love, be afraid. Be very afraid, but don’t be careful. Love fiercely and don’t let anyone stand in your way.

You make the rules.

Great love is built, not found. I think love might be the meaning of life so find the type of love you’d die for, and live for it.

This type of love—it will not come and go like seasons.

Always look for the good in others. Some will let you down, stay close to the ones who keep showing up.

Anyone who makes you question your worth is not worth another minute of your time.

One of the greatest gifts you can give away is your time and time is precious, so waste it wisely because the longer you entertain what isn’t for you, the longer you postpone what is.

The right to exist is not something you must earn and you deserve something more than the worst you can stand.

You will never fix what you are not able to face. This life is meant to be lived, not endured. And as far as I know, you only get one shot, so make it count.

Life should be a series of daring adventures, launched from a safe base.

Forgive often. It’s the only way you will ever find peace.

You are 100% responsible for where you place your energy. The pursuit of joy is one that involves all that moves, teaches and inspires you.

You are a product of the environment you build around your heart, and the world can be hard and heavy sometimes, protect your inner peace.

One of the most rewarding parts of life, is helping others realize the greatness in themselves.

Softness does not imply weakness. Leaning into vulnerability is a form of strength. A positive attitude will take you far. And a little optimism can go a long way.

Make your own decisions, and own up to them all because without mistakes you would be stagnant. Mistakes are how you learn and when you learn, you grow.

Once you know better, do better. Until then don’t be so hard on yourself.

And stop selling yourself short.

Offer up your thoughts, they are valuable. To make big things happen, you have to walk away from comfort. No risk, no story.

You’re here to write about your existential crisis, not solve it.

There is strength in a soft heart and it’s smart to pick your battles—but when it comes to tests of character we go in with guns all blazing.

Sometimes it is the hardest seasons of our lives that lead us toward a new truth.

The raw and honest moments are where the magic lies.

Outcomes are not always predictable and occasionally they may be beyond your control. But in order to stand a chance when the flood gates open, you have to stand your ground. You have power. You have worth.

You are the pioneer of your own destiny.

Always make an effort to leave people better off than you found them. And if you can’t do that, leave them with well wishes and a prayer.

Don’t wish away time or worry too much about planning ahead—because nothing will ruin your years more than thinking you need to have it all figured out.

So hike your mountain, spread your wings, shake the earth while you still can.

And remember, when it comes to the floods, don’t let the waves of fear or anxiety pull you under. Pain, grief, disappointment—it’s all temporary.

Revel in the wonder for as long as it lasts, it may be over before you know it.


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